C, P & S

Take a break with five ergonomic notification apps

by Jack Wallen  |  December 3, 2012, 1:33pm PST  |  Image 1 of 10

Sharing the informative screen / GUI  for computer users at the following www address: 

http://i.techrepublic.com.com/gallery/6395367-487-402.jpg

Hanya Dia (lirik) CT-KD

Adakah kau mengerti...:)

Dalam Diamku (CTKD).wmv

Dalam diam...mencari erti diri di dlm hidup mu. Kau kata kau syg namun puas ku mencari, kenapa mudah benar kau berubah fikiran.

Siti Nurhaliza - Tahajjud Cinta

Aku tidak pernah meminta diri mu berubah. Ku terima dirimu seadanya krn DIA. Walau ku tahu kau bukan pilihan yang terbaik utk ku tika ku bersujud padaNYA. Ku berjanji andainya DIA izinkan ku ke syurga NYA akan ku bwa kau kesana.  Namun jika takdirnya DIA memilih mu utk SYURGANYA,izinkan aku mengikuti mu wlu bukan disamping mu.

Aku bukan insan sempurna  tp akan terus mencuba utk ke syurga NYA.

Siti Nurhaliza - Cintamu

Hanya sebuah lagu mengingatkan pada sebuah cinta 10 tahun lalu....namun masih wujudkah cinta di hatimu seperti dulu?

Coretan utk kakak

Dear Kakak - Ruwaida Nur Fatanah,

Tahun ini ..tahun pertama berjauhan dengan mama. Mama letak kakak dan adik di bawah jagaan papa supaya   

1.  papa merasai dan bertanggungjawab sbg seorg ayah.
2. supaya you learnt that not everything in life is easy, you have to work hard and appreciate things in life.

Mama love you very much but Mama cannot cope with my studies if both of you are with me. Mama cannot concentrate but sadly I miss you.

I cried when I think of you and adik. You are the best thing that had ever happened in my life. Kurniaan Allah yg tiada nilainya.

Mama memilih utk sambung pengajian ke peringkat kedoktoran kerana minat utk melakukan penyelidikan ttp tanpa kalian di sisi mama ...hidup mmg sunyi. Rindu pada celoteh dan bising kalian membuatkan hidup mama terlalu sepi.

Penyelidikan ini agak susah bg mama, selalu mama tertanya2...bodoh sgt ke mama sampai benda yg senang mcm ni pun sukar utk dilakukan.

Rasa serik utk belajar ilmu dunia ...belajar ilmu akhirat mungkin lebih bagus utk usia yg semakin matang ini. Ilmu utk menghadapi akhirat  belum cukup lagi.

my lovely daughter - Fatanah (ketenangan cahaya  kebijaksanaan)

Mama rasa cukuplah ilmu dunia utk mama, mama harap kalian pula akan menyambung pengajian ke peringkat yg lebih tinggi. Harapan mama kakak akan lebih berjaya dlm hidup didunia dan akhirat..

Mama akui mama sering melampiaskan kemarahan pada kakak dan selalu pukul kakak. Mama penat dan letih kalau mama dah nasihat dan beritahu kakak utk buat perangai yg elok tapi kakak sukar utk ikut. Mama tahu kakak budak yg baik, lurus dan pandai. Kakak kena tabahkan hati kuatkan semangat. Berhati hati dlm berkawan, bukan semua kawan boleh dipercayai.  Perjalanan hidup kakak masih panjang lagi,,,jika diizinkan Allah. Jika melakukan kesilapan, usah buat lagi, tinggalkan. Buat yang baik.

Kasih sayang mama utk kakak tidak akan pernah pudar. Mama sentiasa mendoakan agar kakak jadi anak yg soleh berjaya di dunia dan akhirat. Itulah hadiah yg terindah utk mama.

Working with someone U don't like

What to Do When You Have to Work with Someone You Don't Like

by Peter Bregman  |  12:00 PM September 12, 2012

This is the reality. Sometimes and somewhere you will face this reality check in every phase of your life. So let's read how to reduce the stress and try to apply it :  

Just think about how you respond differently to someone you like who can't run a meeting (you want to help them) versus someone you don't like (you want to stop working with them, or, if the meeting is really long, kill them).

The typical advice you hear about working with people you don't like is simply to depersonalize the relationship. Just transact whatever business you need to with them and move on. In other words: Grin and bear it.

But I have found that almost impossible to do.The people we don't like drive us crazy and we waste a tremendous amount of time complaining about them, or stressing about a conversation we need to have with them.

And that's not the worst of it. The deeper problem is that if you don't like someone, chances are they know it. Which will prompt them to not like you. And if you think working with someone you don't like is hard, try working with someone who doesn't like you.

 working with people you don't like becomes a lot more interesting. Because getting to know them better, and accepting the parts of them you don't like, is actually getting to know yourself better and accepting the parts of yourself you don't like.

So the way to overcome your dislike of someone else? Overcome your dislike of yourself.

That's where the person you don't like can come in handy. Use him to understand yourself better. Consider why you have a problem with him. What does he do that bothers you so much? Move past his inability to run meetings or write a good email and get to what's really bugging you. What about his personality or behavior sparks annoyance or disgust in you? What do you hate about him?

Then, consider how your answers might be a reflection of you. This is a game and you win by finding that hated behavior in yourself.

Think about times when you feel greedy or selfish or dismissive or downright mean. Can you see it? Can you feel your feelings of both attraction and disgust? Can you admit to yourself that it's not black or white? It's black and white. Can you live with the complexity of your humanness? That's the key to being compassionate with yourself.

And being compassionate with yourself is the key to being compassionate with others. Before you know it, you'll actually begin to like people you never liked before. Maybe you'll even feel like helping them run those meeting more productively.

Enjoy it. I wonder when u face the situation, it will be difficult but let's just try it.

Frustation?????!!!!

In life, we use to want to have or need something that's aren't or cannot be owned. That's include myself. Sometimes, I ask and ponder in my heart.... why I do this (doing phd)...what's the benefit...monetary or knowledge.  The journey is uphill and mounting... I wonder does it really worth it at the end of my life.

Doing this journey, it is cold, demanding, frustration, blockage - u name it - all the numb feeling in the whole world. I become more stupid that I am before. The stumbling rock is blocking my vein in the head. But I have given up  that feeling, its either I let it be and still fighting or I fight and let it be.  Sometimes, there are things that needed to let go, following the course/way of life. If its meant to be, than its meant to be.

??????

Hidup seadanya. Meniti hari, menghitung hari. Entah untuk apa. Perjalanan mencari ilmu duniawi utk jadi bekalan hidup. Otak dah beku, susah terikat dengan biasiswa dan rasa terhutang budi ...dan segalanya membuat kan aku rasa bersalah.

I don't know what the future lies for me, nobody knows actually. Back then when being offered a place to study at any universities, feeling of exhilaration appeared and entering those places, u can feel the warmth of welcome since to these days.

But here that feeling was lost, cold and empty. An ancient tomb. Maybe it is me. I want to stop the blame on others but that feeling kept on creeping and stayed until now. I can't imagine how the ppl of this country lives..they were born here and has been leaving the tradition of lives. I miss home but not the life that I left.
God, help me.

Stuck and Lost!

I promise you that Westlife Lyrics

I'll be loving you forever westlife

If I Let You Go

Flying Without Wings

Westlife - I Lay My Love On You

Weaknesses : Live with it or Let it Be

Stop Worrying about Your Weaknesses

by Peter Bregman 

Tidaklah begitu mengagung-agungkan pendapat dr org bergelar 'Mat Saleh', namun adakalanya dia berpendapat menggunakan pemikiran dan pengkajiannya. Tapi jika dilihat dr tajuk di atas - adakala benar pendapatnya. Setelah bergelumang dengan dunia pekerjaan selama 10 thn dan mengenal hidup lebih 20 tahun, sy setuju dengan tajuknya. Kita dibelenggu utk terus menjadi yg terbaik - samada dengan menipu, berbohong, berhelah dan terus mengejar impian menjadi yg terbaik - adakalanya kita tersungkur, namun kita kena bangun kembali utk terus meniti perjalanan.

9 tahun yg lalu, Mike Hirst - seseorg dr British Airways dan bekerja di Loughborough Uni pernah menyatakan pendapatnya yg berbunyi  "Sometimes we have to live with our weaknesses".  

The statements in this article that caught my attention are:

We have a report card problem in our companies and it's costing us a tremendous amount of time, money, potential, and happiness. It's costing us talent.

Traditional management systems encourage mediocrity in everything and excellence in nothing. Most performance review systems set an ideal picture of how we want everyone to act (standards, competencies, etc.) and then assesses how closely people match that ideal, nudging them to improve their weaknesses so they "meet or exceed expectations" in every area.

But how will John add the most value to his organization? He's amazing with people, not spreadsheets. He'll work hardest, derive the most pleasure, and contribute his maximum potential with the greatest result if he is able to focus as much time as possible in his area of strength.

Which means taking his focus off developing the things in which he's weak. They're just a distraction.

Here's what his manager should say: "You've worked hard this year John. Your client orientation is superb. You've met your sales goals and you're a solid team player. But working on those spreadsheets isn't a good use of your time and it's not your strength. I'm going to ask David to do those for you from now on. He loves spreadsheets and is great at them. I want to spend the rest of our time talking about how you can get even better at working with your clients. That's where you shine — where you add the most value to the company — and you seem to really enjoy it."

An organization should be a platform for unique talent. A performance review system should be flexible enough to reflect and reward the successful contributions of diverse employees. Let'sencourage people to be weak in areas in which they are average — because no one can possibly be great at everything — and place all our effort on developing their strengths further.

If it's impossible to take away the part of their job in which they're weak, then help them improve just enough so that it doesn't get in the way of their strength. If you can't take the spreadsheets away from John, help him get a C and move on. That would be preferable to spending the time and effort it would take to get an A or even a B.

Want to read more, feel free to visit http://blogs.hbr.org/bregman/2009/05/.

C, P & S

Cut, Paste and Shared

PETER BREGMAN

Peter Bregman is a strategic advisor to CEOs and their leadership teams. His latest book is 18 Minutes: Find Your Focus, Master Distraction, and Get the Right Things Done.

This article title is : Two Lists You Should Look at Every Morning

The important paragraphs that were written in the article is:

Now is a good time to pause, prioritize, and focus. Make two lists:

• List 1: Your Focus List (the road ahead)

What are you trying to achieve? What makes you happy? What's important to you? Design your time around those things. Because time is your one limited resource and no matter how hard you try you can't work 25/8.

• List 2: Your Ignore List (the distractions)

To succeed in using your time wisely, you have to ask the equally important but often avoided complementary questions: 

• what are you willing not to achieve? 
• What doesn't make you happy? What's not important to you? What gets in the way?

Some people already have the first list. Very few have the second. But given how easily we get distracted and how many distractions we have these days, the second is more important than ever. The leaders who will continue to thrive in the future know the answers to these questions and each time there's a demand on their attention they ask whether it will further their focus or dilute it.

Which means you shouldn't create these lists once and then put them in a drawer. These two lists are your map for each day. Review them each morning, along with your calendar, and ask: 

• what's the plan for today? 
• Where will I spend my time? 
• How will it further my focus? 
• How might I get distracted? Then find the courage to follow through, make choices, and maybe disappoint a few people.

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